When They Wins, We All Win






A few weeks ago, the American Dialect Society announced the 2015 Word of the Year: the singular “they.” (Lest anyone doubt the authority of the American Dialect Society, let me point out that its “word-of-the-year” event is “the word-of-the-year event up to which all others lead,” according to the—wait for it—website of the American Dialect […]

Recovering Ourselves: The Secret to True Diversity at Work






Martin Luther King, Jr. Day is upon us, and disguise is on my mind. Let me explain. I’ve been mulling over the concept of “covering”—a word that is new to me in this context but has apparently been around since 1963, when it was coined by sociologist Erving Goffman. “Covering” refers to the practice of […]

Six New Year’s Resolutions for Employers






  I’m not very good at New Year’s resolutions. It’s never made sense to me to pick an arbitrary date and pretend I’m going to start doing something—or everything—differently from that point on. Any gym owner can tell you how the weight room and spin classes swell each January, only to return to near-empty by […]

Ten Tips for Getting On
the Working Mother
“100 Best Companies” List






The application for Working Mother’s annual “100 Best Companies” list is out—if your company wants to try for this list, you have until mid-March to answer the 500 questions, write your essay, and get your entry in. It’s a lot of work, but it’s for a big reward. As I wrote in my last post, getting […]

How Companies Get On Those “Best Company” Lists–And Why






Believe it or not, companies who want a shot at getting on next fall’s  Working Mother “100 Best Companies” list are getting ready to start applying right now. How do they do it? And why? Here’s an update of the post I wrote on this very topic last year: Each year you see them—shouting from […]

Seven Work-and-Life Advances I’m Grateful For This Thanksgiving






It’s been a tough year, both personally and for the country and for the world. And, to my amazement, it is already drawing to a close. Hanukkah just two weeks away? Is that possible? But before Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Festivus, etc., comes Thanksgiving. So once again this year, in honor of all the turkeys to […]

The Trouble With
Parental Leave






A few weeks ago, at Working Mother’s annual “WorkLife Congress,” I attended a breakout session that made me think of Adam Pertman. I’d had a conversation with the adoption reformer a few months ago about the status of employer supports for adoption—see my last post for some of what I learned. The breakout session I […]

Employers: Time to Get Real About “Real” Families!






“Most children adopted from abroad have some level of special need, and most adoptions in America are of children from foster care. You have to convince me that bonding and taking care of your baby requires you to have six weeks, but taking care of, say, a sibling group with special needs only requires two. […]

Why Women Still Aren’t Getting to that C-Suite






If you were to base your understanding of the corporate world on movies and advertising (as it can be tempting to do), you might think women were barreling up the ranks in business faster than you can say “next CEO.” Sadly, for those who can bear to look reality squarely in the eye, it’s clear […]

How My Parents Put the Lie to “Mad Men”






The whole concept of “work-family balance”—or however you choose to phrase it—often feels like a peculiarly modern concern, born of feminism, economic changes and other factors that led to the predominance of two-earner households and/or single parent homes. But of course, this is a strictly middle class view; many families have had to struggle along […]